What is Parental Alienation And How To Overcome It

Parental alienation is a distressing issue that can arise during divorces or child custody disputes. It involves one parent manipulating their child’s emotions and perception of the other parent, which creates a rift and damages the parent child relationship. Unfortunately, the parental alienation syndrome is not uncommon in family law cases and can have long-lasting effects on the child and the relationship between the parents.

The topic of parental alienation, and its implications in family law, is complex. There are many legal aspects surrounding parental alienation that you need to be aware of, including the rights of both parents and the role of the court in addressing and preventing this harmful behavior. There is also the psychological impact of the negative behavior of the offending parent on the child, and ways that you can mitigate the potential impact that parental alienation may cause.

Understanding parental alienation is crucial for people going through a divorce or dealing with child custody issues. It is so important to be aware of this phenomenon because it can significantly affect not only the parent-child relationship but also the overall well-being of the child. By gaining knowledge and insight into parental alienation, individuals can better navigate the legal process and make informed decisions regarding their child’s best interests.

If you are the childs other parent  and you are currently facing the alienating behavior, or are concerned about the risks of parental alienation, you may seek legal assistance to protect your rights and the well-being of your child. At Warren & Migliaccio, L.L.P. , we focus our practice  in family law matters, including parental alienation cases. Our experienced attorneys can provide legal advice, support, and representation to address this parental conflict.

To learn more about parental alienation and how our team can assist you, please contact us today so we can help you safeguard your parental rights and ensure the best outcome for your child.

What Is Parental Alienation?

Parental alienation, a term coined by psychologist Richard Gardner in the 1980s, is a form of child psychological abuse that occurs when a child’s relationship with one parent is manipulated by the other to create unwarranted fear, hostility, or disapproval towards the alienated parent.

The goal of parental alienation is to destroy or interfere with the child’s relationship with the other parent. This strategy is usually used during a divorce or custody battle.

The Causes of Parental Alienation

Before we delve into the characteristics of parental alienation, we must discuss its potential causes. Parental alienation usually arises out of high-conflict divorces or separations where the parents have deep-seated animosity towards one other.

In some instances, the alienating parent may harbor resentments or grudges against the other parent, which they may project onto the child. They may wish to ‘punish’ the other parent by making the child reject them, or they may do it because they genuinely believe that the other parent is harmful to the child.

Sometimes, parental alienation can result from the alienating parent’s own insecurities, fears, or unresolved emotional issues. They may use the child as an emotional crutch, which creates an unhealthy dependence that leads the child to reject the other parent.

Understanding these possible causes can give us better insight into why a parent would resort to such damaging behavior and help us address the situation effectively.

Characteristics of Parental Alienation

Parental alienation is often characterized by a number of behaviors and actions from one parent toward their child. The ultimate goal is to manipulate the child into believing negative things about their other parent.

Over time, these actions can lead the child to reject or fear the alienated parent, leading them to believe that their parent is dangerous or unlovable.

Most disturbingly, the child often isn’t aware of the manipulation. They typically believe their fear or rejection of the alienated parent is valid. Alienated children may also show symptoms of stress, including sleep problems, academic issues, or behavioral changes.

The Alienated Parent and the Alienating Parent

In parental alienation, there are typically two parties involved: the alienated parent and the alienating parent.

The alienated parent is the targeted parent (also referered to as the rejected parent) who is being rejected or ignored by their child due to the manipulation of the alienating parent.  The alienating parent, on the other hand, is the one who is causing the alienation by using their influence over the child to distort the child’s perception of the other parent.

Understanding the Tactics Used in Parental Alienification

Different tactics are employed by the alienating parent to deliberately damage the child’s relationship with the other parent. These can include:

• Speaking negatively about the other parent to the child which creates a negative image in the child’s mind
• Making the child believe that the other parent does not love or care for them
• Blaming the other parent for the separation or for problems in the child’s life
• Limiting the child’s communication with the other parent by restricting phone calls, visits, or online interactions
• Encouraging the child to disrespect the other parent by allowing them to ignore their requests or mock them
• Using the child as a pawn in their ongoing battle with the other parent by forcing the child to choose sides

There are also more subtle forms of brainwashing, such as creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous, unreliable, or uncaring.

All these tactics are examples of alienating behavior and contribute to the child’s alienation from the target parent. The alienating parent often uses the child’s natural desire for love and approval as a tool to manipulate them, resulting in the child rejecting the alienated parent.

The Impact of Parental Alienation on the Child

Children who experience parental alienation can often feel a sense of betrayal and confusion. They may feel torn between two parents and struggle with feelings of loyalty. This can result in the child feeling the need to choose one parent over the other, which can be emotionally taxing and lead to significant emotional distress and could be classified as emotional abuse.

In addition to feelings of betrayal and confusion, a child’s academic performance can suffer as well. They may lose focus on their studies because of ongoing family issues or develop behavioral problems in school. This can impact their future academic and career achievements.

Parental alienation can also affect a child’s identity of self. They may struggle with understanding their own value and worth, given that they are being taught to think negatively about a parent who is inherently a part of them. This can lead to struggles with self-esteem and self-worth, which can be carried over into their adulthood.

This sense of confusion and internal conflict can contribute significantly to the development of mental health issues in children, including depression and anxiety. These conditions can have a profound impact on a child’s overall functioning, including their academic performance, social interactions, and general disposition. These psychological distresses, if not addressed promptly and thoroughly, can persist into adulthood and affect their ability to maintain healthy relationships, pursue career goals, or lead a fulfilling life.

In extreme cases, parental alienation can even lead to estrangement or a complete break-off in the relationship between the child and the alienated parent.

The Impact of Parental Alienation In The Adult Child and Into Adulthood

Children who experience parental alienation can often struggle in their personal relationships later in life. They may have difficulty establishing trust, show patterns of codependency, or experience difficulty in forming secure attachments in adult relationships. They may also be more likely to undergo similar marital issues and conflicts, which effectively perpetuates the cycle of alienation in their own family.

Parental alienation is an important issue that is taken very seriously in family law courts. It is not just about the parents and their right to a relationship with their child – it is about protecting the best interests of the child every time.

Signs That a Child Affected by Parental Alienation

Know the signs to look for in a child who is experiencing parental alienation. Not all children will react the same way, and the severity of the symptoms may vary. There are several commonly observed behaviors of a child affected by parental alienation :

• Unusually Strong Criticism: The child speaks negatively about the alienated parent, often repeating criticisms they’ve heard from the alienating parent and expressing these ideas very strongly and in an adult-like manner.
• Lack of Ambivalence: The child presents an overly simplistic and exaggerated view of the parents: one parent is entirely ‘bad,’ and the other is completely ‘good.’ This is unusual, as most people have mixed feelings about parents and other close relationships.
• Support for the Alienating Parent: The child firmly aligns themselves with the alienating parent, defending them and showing little empathy for the alienated parent.
• Independent Thinker Phenomenon: The child insists that the negative opinion of the alienated parent is entirely their own, even when it is clear that these views reflect the alienating parent’s influence.
• Absence of Guilt: Despite their treatment of the alienated parent, the child shows no guilt or remorse, instead, they may feel justified in their actions.

By monitoring these signs, you can have a better understanding of the situation and take necessary action before a severe case develops.

Legal Rights and Parental Alienation

In cases of parental alienation, both parents have certain rights. These rights will typically be enforced by the court to ensure that the child’s best interests are being met.

For the alienated parent, their rights include but are not limited to:

• The right to have regular, meaningful contact with their child
• The right to be kept informed about the child’s wellbeing
• The right to participate in decision-making about the child’s upbringing

The alienating parent, on the other hand, may also have certain rights, but they can be limited or removed if the court finds evidence of parental alienation. The court may even order therapeutic intervention or modify the custody arrangement to protect the child’s wellbeing.

The Court’s Role in Parental Alienation

Family law courts play a crucial role in addressing parental alienation. When a divorce or custody dispute is brought before the court, the judge will consider the evidence and decide on the best course of action to protect the child’s best interests.

If there is evidence of parental alienation, the court might decide to:

• Order psychological evaluations for the child and their parents
• Assign a guardian ad litem to represent the child’s interests
• Modify the current child custody arrangement to limit the alienating parent’s influence
• Order therapeutic interventions or parenting classes for the alienating parent
• Enforce the alienated parent’s rights to spend time with and make decisions for the child

How Parental Alienation is Proven in Court

Every case of parental alienation is unique and the court’s response will depend on the individual circumstances.

Generally speaking, proving parental alienation in court can be a complex task. An attorney is charged with proving that a parent has demonstrated a pattern of behavior that undermines and disrupts the relationship between a child and their other parent. The court looks for clear and consistent evidence of these behaviors.

The burden of proof lies with the accusing parent, who must present compelling evidence to establish that the alienating parent has intentionally manipulated the child’s feelings toward them. Examples of evidence might include:

• Correspondence emails or text messages
• Testimonials from neutral third parties
• Professional evaluations that suggest that the child’s aversion towards the accusing parent is not a natural response, but a result of manipulation

In some cases, a mental health professional may be called upon to evaluate the family situation and determine whether alienation is occurring. The professional could assess the child’s behavior, the nature of the relationship between the child and both parents and the overall family dynamics. Their objective analysis and testimony can carry significant weight in court.

Remember, each case of parental alienation is unique and the required proof may vary. That’s why it is vital to work closely with an experienced family law attorney who can gather and present the most compelling evidence.

Mitigating the Damage of Parental Alienation

Understanding and addressing parental alienation is crucial to mitigate its damaging effects. If you suspect that you’re a victim of parental alienation, seek professional help immediately:

• Secure legal representation: Family law attorneys are skilled in handling complex custody disputes, including cases involving parental alienation.
• Gather evidence: Keep a record of any instances of parental alienation, such as hostile communications, or incidents where the other parent blocked access to the child or coached the child to reject you.
• Seek therapeutic support: A therapist specializing in parental alienation can provide valuable guidance and support both for you and your child.

Parental Alienation Can Be Overcome

Parental alienation can have damaging effects on both the parent and the child, especially older children . Thankfully, it is possible to overcome these impacts with the right support. The most important step is to recognize the signs of parental alienation and take action early.

Family law is complex, and cases involving parental alienation can be particularly challenging. However, with the assistance of experienced family law attorneys like those at Warren & Migliaccio, L.L.P., you can navigate these complexities, protect your parental rights, and ensure the best outcome for your child and your family.

Trust Warren & Migliaccio, L.L.P., With Your Family Law Case

Parental alienation is a serious issue that family law courts recognize and address with the gravity it deserves. The focus of each parental alienation case is always the child’s best interest, and every resolution has the child’s well-being at heart.

With a deep understanding of parental alienation and its implications, individuals can better prepare themselves for legal proceedings and make informed decisions for their children’s welfare.

If you need assistance or advice on parental alienation, contact us at Warren & Migliaccio, L.L.P. Our experienced family law attorneys are ready to provide you with the legal support and representation you need to navigate through this challenging time.